My friend Rui made this statement as we shared a coffee recently. I found it simple and wise, worth sharing.

The idea is this: we have to define our own success metrics for life, considering our own unique combination of who we are, what our family needs, and the context in which we thrive. 

This requires self-reflection to know ourselves well. It also takes honesty and objectivity, to not fall back on the “standard” metrics society has taught us to value. And it takes courage to pursue, to stand for, and to live every day. 

Assessing our lives through the lens of another, even when we meet or exceed those objectives, may leave us feeling empty and unfulfilled. Rather, defining what success looks like for each of us, then living intentionally against that definition, can lead us to a life of meaning, fulfillment, and purpose.