I spent an hour with 15 female rising stars across China. We spoke of women in leadership; while we covered some watchouts, we also spent time reflecting on our unique strengths as women. How do we take hold of what we can, with courage? How might we identify those elements completely out of our control, and let go? And importantly, what tools help us identify the difference between those two? As mid-lever leaders, defining our social legacy arms us with a North Star, a backbone of courage that helps us proceed with confidence.